If you are struggling with alcohol dependency then you should first try to determine just how dependent you are on the drug.
That is right, alcohol is a drug….there is no two ways about it. Drugs can come in a liquid form and guess what–alcohol is just such a drug. It is not like a drug. It is a drug. Period.
So what is your level of dependence on alcohol, and how can you best determine this?
Well first of all you have to get honest with yourself. This is critical because if you try to determine this sort of thing while engaging in any form of self deception, you are only going to be kidding yourself and this will only hurt you in the long run. For example, many people might be able to struggle enough to control their drinking for a few days or even a few weeks, but they are not really enjoying themselves at all during this time. They are just biding their time until they can “drink how they really want to.” Secretly, this is what they are doing in the back of their mind, even though they are telling themselves that they can cut back on their drinking, they can control it like this, and they plan to keep doing so for a long time.
This is denial. It is a story that the person tells themselves, in their mind, in order to justify their dependency on booze. They may control it for a while and cut down, all the while telling themselves that they can enjoy it later but they will still control it somehow.
For the alcoholic, this is a fallacy. They can never both enjoy their drinking and control it at the same time. There will be fleeting moments, of course, where this will appear to happen. They will be pleasantly buzzed, with no real chaos happening, and they will seem to be both in control and very much happy with their drinking. But these moments will be fleeting, and the true alcoholic will struggle for 99 percent of their days to recapture these moments. They will either be miserable, drunk, but not really in that “happy drunk” place that they long for, or they will be struggling hard to control their drinking, so that they do not lose total control, in which case they can hardly enjoy themselves at all.
If any of this sounds the least bit familiar, then you might be on the verge of diagnosing yourself as being alcohol dependent. If this is the case, then it takes a huge amount of honesty to really admit this to yourself and to ask for help. But doing so is the path to healing.
Admit your dependency, then accept it on a really deep level. This is the path to change.