While many addicts choose to blame their relapse on a long list of culprits such as unsupportive friends, a dysfunctional home life or the flawed health system, the truth is that the number one enemy that threatens your recovery is you.
While it was hard for me as well to recognize that I’m hindering my own recovery, I came to realize that addiction is the method I selected to deal with uncomfortable feelings or escape my problems.
However, remember that you can only deal with these issues temporarily and end up facing bigger problems in the long run. Following is a list of self-sabotage acts that continue to get in the path of your recovery, sometimes even after years of sobriety:
Granted, when you first realize you have a problem, it’s really difficult for you to admit that you may not be able to handle it yourself and you need help in order to recover. However, keep in mind that continuous egocentric thoughts are nothing more than a veil that covers your deepest insecurities. While egocentric addicts tend to be more competitive, they are not really focused on getting sober, but rather more on being right. Because there is a risk of a superficial recovery, it is best to prevent your ego from getting in your way.
Despite that many of us are aware of the dangers of isolation when trying to kick the habit, many of us have a natural inclination to withdraw from society and may not even realize it. As numerous studies prove, isolation is correlated with depression and loneliness, two very dangerous emotional states that increase the chances of a relapse. Therefore, even if you don’t feel like it, make an effort and get involved in activities you truly enjoy.
Feelings of self-pity
While feeling sorry for yourself could prove beneficial in moderate doses, self-pity could prove tricky and risky in addiction. To be more precise, because you don’t think you deserve anything but misery, your recovery motivation could transform into hopelessness, blame, and resentment. Therefore, it could represent a means to justify your weakness to kick the habit for good or it could become an excuse to blame others for your mistakes.
Easily giving up
It is important to note that meetings and counseling sessions are an important part of the recovery and should not be skipped. However, sometimes, I also have to admit that they’re not sufficient to making your day fun and fulfilling. Still, in order to avoid relapse, you should spend your time exploring new interests, discovering what gives your life meaning and even creating a daily routine you can actually enjoy. Regardless of how you feel at times, don’t forget that boredom could be within your control with a little effort. Easily giving up is the biggest sabotage we can do to our own addiction recovery.
Regardless of whether you are confronted with an addiction or not, you cannot eliminate stress completely from your life. However, what you can do is to learn how to control your reactions to everyday stressors. If you allow too many things to get to you too soon, then you will be more vulnerable to the temptation of a quick fix. Fight stress as you fight your addiction, you are not alone in this fight!