Comments on: Why Relationships in Early Recovery Serve as a Poor Replacement Strategy

By: SUE HANEY

SUE HANEY — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 16:45:09 +0000

My boyfriend and I started dating 07/11 he is recently been through rehab and is now in a sober house. I am 53 and have been in therapy since a teen, I have a the tools and support system to live a healthy mental and physical daily life. He had a head injury when he was 19 and is now 43 he struggles with alcohol and drug use. We have so much in common and love each other very much, and value our friendship very much. We work for the same hospital and see each other everyday. I love him so much that if not being intimate is in his best interest I will comply. It will be difficult for both of us.

By: Rosemary

Rosemary — Sat, 13 Aug 2011 11:50:37 +0000

I’ve been clean and sober for 3 years and i met someone (a person whose been in and out for 7 years) unfortunately I didn’t listen to the advise of people with more experience than me. I had to find out for myself that it’s a real BAD idea to get involved with someone like that. I have a wonderful loving sponsor who let me walk my own path. She said and of course I forgot this, that getting involved with a new comer is like going to THE WORST neighborhood to look for a partner. So for me it was going to the darkest “hood” there is. And I found the sickest junkie available to partner up with. BAD bad idea. We have been “duking” it out for at least six months. She hasn’t put more than a month together in all that time. Am I being selfish? You darn right I am.
So listen up…….don’t go thru what I am……it SUCKS!

By: lisa

lisa — Tue, 12 Jul 2011 03:56:27 +0000

My very good friend who is a Recovery Support Specialist and has been drug/alcohol free for 7 years himself just married a woman he met two months ago. She herself has been clean for only 6 months. It kills me because, it’s something he’s always reinforced in his friends and in his meetings. I know she is running from something and it’s doomed and he fell right into his impulsive ways. I’m so angry with him for his lack of common sense.