Comments on: “When You Fall in Love with a System You Lose the Ability to Grow” http://www.spiritualriver.com/when-you-fall-in-love-with-a-system-you-lose-the-ability-to-grow/ Non-traditional recovery from addiction Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:09:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Patrickhttp://www.spiritualriver.com/when-you-fall-in-love-with-a-system-you-lose-the-ability-to-grow/comment-page-1/#comment-47587 Patrick Tue, 24 Nov 2009 14:24:11 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=447#comment-47587 Right on, Andrea. I agree 100 percent. Good recovery is solution focused, not problem based. Always pushing for personal growth. Sorry about your friend. Right on, Andrea. I agree 100 percent. Good recovery is solution focused, not problem based. Always pushing for personal growth.

Sorry about your friend.

]]> By: Andreahttp://www.spiritualriver.com/when-you-fall-in-love-with-a-system-you-lose-the-ability-to-grow/comment-page-1/#comment-47583 Andrea Tue, 24 Nov 2009 12:51:58 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=447#comment-47583 I completely agree with this article. As to why people don't seek help for this disease, it's because the person has to want to change enough to admit there is a problem. And they have to decide to do it themselves. It doesn't matter if the people around them think it's a problem, the person has to be ready to make this a life change. And not out of desperation, like AA suggests, but out of humility yet belief that things can be better which is different. AA does work for many people, but I agree that people who are holistic will not react well to a list of rules and meetings where people describe again and again their trials with alcohol. For some, this reinforces their decision to not drink. For others, it only returns them to a darker time and returns their focus to drinking when their focus needs to be on the positive journey ahead. I lost a very good friend to alcohol. His family insisted that if he just stayed in AA he would have survived, but I knew him very well and I understood why it didn't work for him. If he had found something that restored faith in himself, I believe he could have stopped drinking. But AA was too rigid, too unlike his creative, sensitive personality and all it taught him was that being sober meant following a bunch of rules that felt artificial to him. His family and friends all kept sending him back to AA, too afraid to even suggest anything different. Too afraid of losing him. But I know part of the reason we did lose him was that AA didn't work for him. For people who are highly creative, it's not enough to not drink. Yes, they absolutely should not drink if there's an addiciton!! I am not dissenting with that. But the focus can't be on the negation of alcohol, it has to be on the addition of personal growth. I believe that you can not drink and yet not have to focus on not drinking 3-7 times a week for an hour at a time. For others it would be more effective to spend that time focusing on adding to their lives, while accepting that that can never again be alcohol. I completely agree with this article. As to why people don’t seek help for this disease, it’s because the person has to want to change enough to admit there is a problem. And they have to decide to do it themselves. It doesn’t matter if the people around them think it’s a problem, the person has to be ready to make this a life change. And not out of desperation, like AA suggests, but out of humility yet belief that things can be better which is different. AA does work for many people, but I agree that people who are holistic will not react well to a list of rules and meetings where people describe again and again their trials with alcohol. For some, this reinforces their decision to not drink. For others, it only returns them to a darker time and returns their focus to drinking when their focus needs to be on the positive journey ahead. I lost a very good friend to alcohol. His family insisted that if he just stayed in AA he would have survived, but I knew him very well and I understood why it didn’t work for him. If he had found something that restored faith in himself, I believe he could have stopped drinking. But AA was too rigid, too unlike his creative, sensitive personality and all it taught him was that being sober meant following a bunch of rules that felt artificial to him. His family and friends all kept sending him back to AA, too afraid to even suggest anything different. Too afraid of losing him. But I know part of the reason we did lose him was that AA didn’t work for him. For people who are highly creative, it’s not enough to not drink. Yes, they absolutely should not drink if there’s an addiciton!! I am not dissenting with that. But the focus can’t be on the negation of alcohol, it has to be on the addition of personal growth. I believe that you can not drink and yet not have to focus on not drinking 3-7 times a week for an hour at a time. For others it would be more effective to spend that time focusing on adding to their lives, while accepting that that can never again be alcohol.

]]> By: Kellyhttp://www.spiritualriver.com/when-you-fall-in-love-with-a-system-you-lose-the-ability-to-grow/comment-page-1/#comment-21660 Kelly Sun, 09 Nov 2008 16:41:39 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=447#comment-21660 The problem: Why do people not seek help for this disease.... These were my thoughts... http://kellychronicles.spaces.live.com/blog/cns!A0D71E1614E8DBF8!572.entry Watch wrap on URL The problem: Why do people not seek help for this disease….

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