Comments on: Ways to Help an Alcoholic http://www.spiritualriver.com/ways-to-help-an-alcoholic/ Non-traditional recovery from addiction Tue, 07 Sep 2010 07:16:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Patrick http://www.spiritualriver.com/ways-to-help-an-alcoholic/comment-page-1/#comment-50380 Patrick Sun, 10 Jan 2010 04:47:33 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=490#comment-50380 Hi Gwen I am not qualified to advise you on this. My only advice is to find someone more qualified to advise you. Seriously...I don't have children myself, and I am not an expert at navigating a relationship like this one. But I do know where there are experts at this sort of thing: Al-anon meetings. Hi Gwen

I am not qualified to advise you on this. My only advice is to find someone more qualified to advise you. Seriously…I don’t have children myself, and I am not an expert at navigating a relationship like this one.

But I do know where there are experts at this sort of thing:

Al-anon meetings.

]]> By: Gwen http://www.spiritualriver.com/ways-to-help-an-alcoholic/comment-page-1/#comment-50370 Gwen Sat, 09 Jan 2010 21:35:11 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=490#comment-50370 My 27 year old son is an alcoholic. He and his four year old son live with my husband and I. He has had one DUI and one PI and will go to court this month. I don't know what the outcome will be but my husband continues to feel that if we will help him all we can he will someday realize that he has to quit and will take steps to do so. I have come to believe that he will have to suffer conquences for his actions before he will want to change. Both of us would make him move out of our house and be on his own but we feel we have to protect our grandson. I cannot allow him to take the boy for fear of what would happen to him. He is a very good father when he is sober but lately he has been drinking every day and he makes life miserable for all of us. I am between a rock and a hard place. People I have talked to say we have to kick him out because he is causing so much stress for us it is impossible to enjoy our lives because of the depression, anxiety and fear. But why should I make things better for myself and subject my grandson to more pain. I will do anything to protect that little boy. He is secure and happy and very loved here. I can't take that away from him. Prayer and giving the whole situation to God helps but I need wisdom and strength and my husband and I need to get on the same page. Please advise. My 27 year old son is an alcoholic. He and his four year old son live with my husband and I. He has had one DUI and one PI and will go to court this month. I don’t know what the outcome will be but my husband continues to feel that if we will help him all we can he will someday realize that he has to quit and will take steps to do so. I have come to believe that he will have to suffer conquences for his actions before he will want to change. Both of us would make him move out of our house and be on his own but we feel we have to protect our grandson. I cannot allow him to take the boy for fear of what would happen to him. He is a very good father when he is sober but lately he has been drinking every day and he makes life miserable for all of us. I am between a rock and a hard place. People I have talked to say we have to kick him out because he is causing so much stress for us it is impossible to enjoy our lives because of the depression, anxiety and fear. But why should I make things better for myself and subject my grandson to more pain. I will do anything to protect that little boy. He is secure and happy and very loved here. I can’t take that away from him. Prayer and giving the whole situation to God helps but I need wisdom and strength and my husband and I need to get on the same page. Please advise.

]]> By: at a loss http://www.spiritualriver.com/ways-to-help-an-alcoholic/comment-page-1/#comment-39458 at a loss Sun, 06 Sep 2009 22:57:25 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=490#comment-39458 i am at a loss with my husband. he drinks, just not every night. but when he does, watch out. it gets worse and worse. it starts with 4 or 5 drinks a couple of times a week and by the end of a month he is going out 1 to 2 times a week and drinking at home the other days, only not 4 or 5 but 10 to 12 or more. i am trying to read on alcoholism, but was also told to read a book on codependency. does he have a drinking problem or do i have a codependency problem and just think he has a drinking problem or "make" him drink? but i am so confused with whether or not each of us has a problem or just one of us. am i a codependent or enabler? do i make him drink or does his drinking make me more codependent? i am at a loss with my husband. he drinks, just not every night. but when he does, watch out. it gets worse and worse. it starts with 4 or 5 drinks a couple of times a week and by the end of a month he is going out 1 to 2 times a week and drinking at home the other days, only not 4 or 5 but 10 to 12 or more. i am trying to read on alcoholism, but was also told to read a book on codependency. does he have a drinking problem or do i have a codependency problem and just think he has a drinking problem or “make” him drink? but i am so confused with whether or not each of us has a problem or just one of us. am i a codependent or enabler? do i make him drink or does his drinking make me more codependent?

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