Comments on: The Universal Paths to Failure in Recovery http://www.spiritualriver.com/the-universal-paths-to-failure-in-recovery/ Non-traditional recovery from addiction Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:54:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Patrick http://www.spiritualriver.com/the-universal-paths-to-failure-in-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-32507 Patrick Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:04:37 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=1024#comment-32507 Fawn and Nat, both of your ideas seem to led themselves towards a shift in attitude to cope with resentment....especially the idea about focusing on the positive. If we practice gratitude daily we can really stay well protected from resentments ruining our lives I think. You cannot be both grateful and angry at the same time. You cannot be both grateful and feeling sorry for yourself at the same time. Gratitude is the cure. The thing is, it takes practice. Fawn and Nat, both of your ideas seem to led themselves towards a shift in attitude to cope with resentment….especially the idea about focusing on the positive.

If we practice gratitude daily we can really stay well protected from resentments ruining our lives I think. You cannot be both grateful and angry at the same time. You cannot be both grateful and feeling sorry for yourself at the same time.

Gratitude is the cure. The thing is, it takes practice.

]]> By: Nat http://www.spiritualriver.com/the-universal-paths-to-failure-in-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-32474 Nat Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:40:26 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=1024#comment-32474 On a day to day basis I stay focussed on the things that are terrific in my life. Things that I am greatful to be able to experience. Iits simple stuff like a great song on the radio, a nice smell, a cute dog, people holding hands in the streets. I take time to look back on my goals and my achievements, thankfully this now takes up more space in my head than the resentments. I find that by surrounding yourself with positive/happy people you forget about the negative influences and the odd choices you have made in the past. Time does heal, I agree that writing it down helps a lot because it gets the thoughts out of your head, where they can quickly get out of control and give you something to frown about. On a day to day basis I stay focussed on the things that are terrific in my life. Things that I am greatful to be able to experience. Iits simple stuff like a great song on the radio, a nice smell, a cute dog, people holding hands in the streets. I take time to look back on my goals and my achievements, thankfully this now takes up more space in my head than the resentments.
I find that by surrounding yourself with positive/happy people you forget about the negative influences and the odd choices you have made in the past. Time does heal, I agree that writing it down helps a lot because it gets the thoughts out of your head, where they can quickly get out of control and give you something to frown about.

]]> By: Fawn http://www.spiritualriver.com/the-universal-paths-to-failure-in-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-32113 Fawn Sun, 05 Jul 2009 00:01:37 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=1024#comment-32113 This is what I did. Every time I heard something or read something about resentments I wrote it down. I had a list of maybe a hundred things. I carried it around and when a resentment hit me I would get that thing out and read down till I found something that helped. Sometimes it was a bandaid type thing and sometimes it was oriented around getting to the root of things. I think maybe the willingness to do something about the resentment was the key thing, not the fix itself. Also, practice for long enough and some of the positive behaviors become as much a habit as the bad ones. This is what I did. Every time I heard something or read something about resentments I wrote it down. I had a list of maybe a hundred things. I carried it around and when a resentment hit me I would get that thing out and read down till I found something that helped. Sometimes it was a bandaid type thing and sometimes it was oriented around getting to the root of things. I think maybe the willingness to do something about the resentment was the key thing, not the fix itself. Also, practice for long enough and some of the positive behaviors become as much a habit as the bad ones.

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