http://www.spiritualriver.com Non-traditional recovery from addiction Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:09:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://www.spiritualriver.com/setting-boundaries-with-people-who-drink-or-use-drugs/comment-page-1/#comment-117891 patty Sat, 13 Aug 2011 01:46:34 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?page_id=2326#comment-117891 It is absolutely not unreasonable that you ask him to leave, he is the one causing the craziness not you, why should you disrupt your life. It is absolutely not unreasonable that you ask him to leave, he is the one causing the craziness not you, why should you disrupt your life.

]]> http://www.spiritualriver.com/setting-boundaries-with-people-who-drink-or-use-drugs/comment-page-1/#comment-62332 Joyce Fri, 04 Jun 2010 03:26:46 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?page_id=2326#comment-62332 My alcoholic boyfriend is a binge drinker. He'll stay sober for months and then relapse. His binges last for 3-7 days. His relapses are so bad that he makes it unbearable to live in the same house. He urinates all over the place, vomits, destroys the couch, destroys the bed, has lost jobs etc. In the past, when he picked up, I would leave the house for a week or two, because he makes it so unfit to live with and I won't tolerate being around him when he drinks. When he was sober we talked and agreed that it wasn't fair that I had to leave the house for weeks and disrupt my living arrangements, because he chose to pick up again, so we decided that he would leave and stay at a hotel, on the street, homeless shelter or where ever. Basically, no alcohol or drinking is allowed in the house and I want to keep that boundary. Is that a fair boundary to set? Is it fair to say, that I don't allow drinks or intoxicated people or my intoxicated boyfriend in the house until they are sober? My alcoholic boyfriend is a binge drinker. He’ll stay sober for months and then relapse. His binges last for 3-7 days. His relapses are so bad that he makes it unbearable to live in the same house. He urinates all over the place, vomits, destroys the couch, destroys the bed, has lost jobs etc. In the past, when he picked up, I would leave the house for a week or two, because he makes it so unfit to live with and I won’t tolerate being around him when he drinks. When he was sober we talked and agreed that it wasn’t fair that I had to leave the house for weeks and disrupt my living arrangements, because he chose to pick up again, so we decided that he would leave and stay at a hotel, on the street, homeless shelter or where ever. Basically, no alcohol or drinking is allowed in the house and I want to keep that boundary. Is that a fair boundary to set? Is it fair to say, that I don’t allow drinks or intoxicated people or my intoxicated boyfriend in the house until they are sober?

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