Comments on: Reader Mailbag – “Will My Relationship with an Addict Help or Hurt their Recovery? When Can I Start Seeing Them Again?” http://www.spiritualriver.com/reader-mailbag-will-my-relationship-with-an-addict-help-or-hurt-their-recovery-when-can-i-start-seeing-them-again/ Non-traditional recovery from addiction Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:09:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Patrickhttp://www.spiritualriver.com/reader-mailbag-will-my-relationship-with-an-addict-help-or-hurt-their-recovery-when-can-i-start-seeing-them-again/comment-page-1/#comment-47567 Patrick Tue, 24 Nov 2009 03:32:49 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=324#comment-47567 Nikki - it sounds to me like your boyfriend is not done using drugs yet. He has not had enough. He is still having fun with it. Eventually it stops being fun and then he might ask for help on how to quit. I am afraid that you might be on a roller coaster until then. When does that point occur? Could be 2 weeks, could be 40 years. Seriously. It might be that long. I know people who are over 70 and they are just now getting clean and sober from drugs and alcohol. I would suggest you go to an Al-Anon meeting for more info....good luck. Nikki – it sounds to me like your boyfriend is not done using drugs yet. He has not had enough. He is still having fun with it.

Eventually it stops being fun and then he might ask for help on how to quit. I am afraid that you might be on a roller coaster until then.

When does that point occur? Could be 2 weeks, could be 40 years. Seriously. It might be that long. I know people who are over 70 and they are just now getting clean and sober from drugs and alcohol.

I would suggest you go to an Al-Anon meeting for more info….good luck.

]]> By: nikkihttp://www.spiritualriver.com/reader-mailbag-will-my-relationship-with-an-addict-help-or-hurt-their-recovery-when-can-i-start-seeing-them-again/comment-page-1/#comment-47566 nikki Tue, 24 Nov 2009 03:25:41 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=324#comment-47566 i met my boyfriend 2 months before he went to rehab for opiod dependency,along with a list practicaly from A to Z, he stayed clean for 11 months ,then i noticed him changing attitude etc. i found a ballon and duster hidden in the closet,when i confronted him he denied it i went to bed next thing i know i hear a crash.... i ran to the bathroom he was in the floor flopping almost like a seizure with whippits and ballon in hand. i faught him for days asking why how etc. like an idiot i let him stay.( hes in out patient rehab /& on probation for 5 years for distrubution from a previous charge before i met him) i found pot in his coat confronted him he said its his freinds had a freind come get it.... i dont if hes lieing or not... i love him but i plan on doing something with my life getting a doctorate and he ... well he has nothing he aiming for...he told me the other day he has an extremly addictive personality and once her starts something he cant quit.... doesnt that sound like an excuse? what is your advise... love isnt worth the heartahe,stress,mental anquish to put up with something like this is it? or can he ever get better? he is 25 im 23.... i met my boyfriend 2 months before he went to rehab for opiod dependency,along with a list practicaly from A to Z, he stayed clean for 11 months ,then i noticed him changing attitude etc. i found a ballon and duster hidden in the closet,when i confronted him he denied it i went to bed next thing i know i hear a crash…. i ran to the bathroom he was in the floor flopping almost like a seizure with whippits and ballon in hand. i faught him for days asking why how etc. like an idiot i let him stay.( hes in out patient rehab /& on probation for 5 years for distrubution from a previous charge before i met him) i found pot in his coat confronted him he said its his freinds had a freind come get it…. i dont if hes lieing or not… i love him but i plan on doing something with my life getting a doctorate and he … well he has nothing he aiming for…he told me the other day he has an extremly addictive personality and once her starts something he cant quit…. doesnt that sound like an excuse? what is your advise… love isnt worth the heartahe,stress,mental anquish to put up with something like this is it? or can he ever get better? he is 25 im 23….

]]> By: MRS VERY CONFUSEDhttp://www.spiritualriver.com/reader-mailbag-will-my-relationship-with-an-addict-help-or-hurt-their-recovery-when-can-i-start-seeing-them-again/comment-page-1/#comment-38997 MRS VERY CONFUSED Fri, 04 Sep 2009 17:41:31 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=324#comment-38997 I AM VERY CONFUSED ON JUST WHAT TO DO ABOUT THIS HOLD SITUATION WITH MY HUSBAND OF TWENTY YEARS AND HIS DRUG ADDICTTION. HE HAS BEEN IN SEVERAL REHABS SO MANY I HAVE LOST COUNT WE HAVE THREE SONS TWENTY SIX,SIXTEEN,AND WE LOST OUR MIDDLE SON WHEN HE WAS FIFTEEN SIX YEARS AGO. MY HUSBAND FIVE MONTHS AGO DECIDED AFTER BEING CLEANED FOR ONE YEAR DECIDED TO LEAVE AGAIN AND AFTER NOT KNOWING HIS WHERE ABOUTS FOR ABOUT THREE MONTHS I GET A LETTER LETTING ME AND MY SONS KNOW HE WAS IN A NINE MONTH PROGRAM (HIS ADDICTTIION IS CRACK COCAINE).NOW I AM CONFUSED ON IF I SHOULD EVEN COMMUNICATE WITH HIM AT ALL OR SHOULD I JUST FILE FOR DIVORCE AND WALK AWAY, I AM TIRED OF HIM JUST WALKING OUT ON US THIS WAY DON'T KNOW IF I CAN TRUST HIM ANY MORE. PLEASE HELP ! WE ARE VERY SPIRITUAL IN CHURCH FAMILY AND VERY CONFUSED ON WHAT TO DO? I AM VERY CONFUSED ON JUST WHAT TO DO ABOUT THIS HOLD SITUATION WITH MY HUSBAND OF TWENTY YEARS AND HIS DRUG ADDICTTION. HE HAS BEEN IN SEVERAL REHABS SO MANY I HAVE LOST COUNT WE HAVE THREE SONS TWENTY SIX,SIXTEEN,AND WE LOST OUR MIDDLE SON WHEN HE WAS FIFTEEN SIX YEARS AGO. MY HUSBAND FIVE MONTHS AGO DECIDED AFTER BEING CLEANED FOR ONE YEAR DECIDED TO LEAVE AGAIN AND AFTER NOT KNOWING HIS WHERE ABOUTS FOR ABOUT THREE MONTHS I GET A LETTER LETTING ME AND MY SONS KNOW HE WAS IN A NINE MONTH PROGRAM (HIS ADDICTTIION IS CRACK COCAINE).NOW I AM CONFUSED ON IF I SHOULD EVEN COMMUNICATE WITH HIM AT ALL OR SHOULD I JUST FILE FOR DIVORCE AND WALK AWAY, I AM TIRED OF HIM JUST WALKING OUT ON US THIS WAY DON’T KNOW IF I CAN TRUST HIM ANY MORE. PLEASE HELP ! WE ARE VERY SPIRITUAL IN CHURCH FAMILY AND VERY CONFUSED ON WHAT TO DO?

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