Anyone who is trapped in a cycle of alcoholism probably wants to quit drinking alcohol, but fear holds us back. This is why denial manifests itself. The alcoholic can come up with all sorts of reasons of why the do not want to quit drinking, but deep down it is always fear that keeps us from taking action and making a change.
I don’t know how to help you get past that fear. I just know that if you are sick and tired of living the way that you’ve been living, at some point you will throw up your hands and say “This is it. I have to make a change.” This is the point of surrender and it is when you are able to move past the fear of not drinking. Something happens on an inner level and you decide that it is time to try something different. And thus you ask for help. You ask others how you should live. This is the point of surrender and you have to reach this point in order to make any lasting changes in your life. If you do not reach this psychological threshold then any attempts to quit drinking will most likely fail.
Like I said I am not sure how to actually induce this state of surrender in people, but now that you know about it you can at least identify if you are ready to quit drinking or not. If you are ready, then what follows is some basic information on the other stuff you should probably know about.
Physically quitting alcohol
Quitting drinking is dangerous. Alcohol withdrawal can be fatal. Not taking a drink can actually kill a person. These are true statements and you have to realize that if someone is heavily addicted to alcohol then they are in great danger if they suddenly stop drinking alcohol. If this is the case in your situation then you might need to seek immediate medical treatment. If someone stops drinking suddenly and they are starting to shake violently then you need to get them to an emergency room immediately.
Because of this danger, the best option is really to quit drinking in a treatment center or drug rehab facility. There you will be under constant medical care in a supervised detox area. This is the ideal route to go just for the sake of safety alone. Any other method of detox is going to introduce more risk to the person’s health, so ideally you should try to quit drinking at a treatment center.
Basically what happens at a treatment center is that the staff there will monitor your vital signs and give you medication that will keep you from going through several withdrawal symptoms. In some cases the medicine that they give to a person will prevent them from having seizures.

Alcoholics Anonymous
Many people who struggle to quit drinking alcohol will find their way to Alcoholics Anonymous. This is a huge solution for alcoholism that can be found in many different countries all over the world. In the United States, there are AA meetings in every major city, and pretty much any mid-sized or even smaller city as well. They are pretty much everywhere.
The AA program is probably, on the whole, a good thing that is generally helpful. Those who dedicate themselves to the program tend to do well. If you look at the total numbers when it comes to success in AA, you may get discouraged though. Out of the thousands who pass through the door of AA, only a handful stay sober permanently. Many people reject the program outright and simply never return, according to AA census data. And of course, many of these people are those who are court-ordered to attend meetings and do not really want to be there anyway.
The AA program works for some, and it has the added benefit of basically being free. It is crazy not to take advantage of this and at least give the program a chance to work in your life. If it is not for you, then simply move on.
Quit drinking pill
Is there a pill to help you quit drinking? Alcoholics joke that if there was such a pill, then they would probably overdose on it. Medical science has not yet solved the problem of addiction, but they are coming out with new medications every once in a while that supposedly reduce cravings for alcohol and other drugs.
One such pill for alcoholism is called Campral. This is a pill that is taken several times each day and is proven to help reduce cravings for alcohol. It does not work miracles though, but it might be helpful for some. Many people who have used the medication have ended up relapsing anyway. It is not a magic bullet. At the present time, there is no magic bullet.
Quit drinking soda
If you want to quit drinking soda, then the process is a little bit different from quitting alcohol, though some of the concepts might be the same. You might try substitution as your primary method of giving up fountain drinks, such as by drinking milk, tea, or water instead of your daily soda.
Another technique is to slowly transition away from soda. Most people who are addicted to soda drink several each day. Start by replacing just one of your sodas with an alternative beverage such as milk, tea, or juice. Stick to that one replacement drink for a week or two and then try to replace a second soda with your replacement beverage. Thus you can transition away from soda and hardly even notice that you are missing it.
If the caffeine is part of the addiction with soda, then you will have to deal with that as well. You can replace the soda with regular tea, which does have some caffeine (regular tea, not herbal or green, which generally are caffeine free). This is, of course, quite a bit different from learning how to quit drinking alcohol. Really it is like comparing apples to oranges.
Quit drinking lose weight
If you quit drinking alcohol will you lose weight? You bet. Alcohol is empty calories that can seriously add up if you consume large quantities throughout the day or night. Pretty much any alcoholic who stops drinking will shed at least a few pounds due to the reduction in these empty calories. Sometimes this is all gained back when developing a sweet tooth in early recovery, but the trade off is more than worth it, as the alcoholic drinking carries a number of other problems with it as well that are far worse than weight gain.
Quit binge drinking
Some alcoholics are binge drinkers and do not drink alcohol every single day. Instead, they may go days, weeks, or months without taking a single drop of alcohol, then they will binge drink for several days straight. This can become tricky because the person can easily convince themselves that they do not really have a problem, because they can go for so long without taking a drink.
In the end, they need to get honest with themselves and see that alcohol is still a problem for them, even if they have periods of abstinence. When they binge, they completely lose control and cannot stop themselves from continuing to drink. Binge drinking can be deadly and it is also very difficult to arrest due to the long periods of abstinence that can keep the alcoholic stuck in denial for year and years.
Quit drinking medication
There are some other medications that might be used to help a person to quit drinking alcohol, such as Antabuse or Naltrexone. Antabuse is a preventative medication that makes the alcoholic violently ill if they drink alcohol while taking the drug. It has been used with some success but for the most part it is just a way for the alcoholic to try and manipulate themselves. Naltrexone is another medication that tries to reduce cravings for alcohol by reducing the effectiveness of the alcohol in creating pleasure in the brain.
There will probably be more medications to help people quit drinking that will be developed in the coming years, and it is very likely that none of them will be a magic cure that solves the problem completely.
Stop drinking alcohol
Ultimately the solution for any alcoholic is to simply stop drinking alcohol and learn how to live a sober life. This is easier said than done and of course this is why there are all sorts of programs out there to try and help alcoholics to recover.
It is not enough to merely abstain from alcohol. If this were true then we could cure alcoholism at the individual level without any help at all. The solution has to go beyond the alcohol itself because the problem is more fundamental than an addiction to a substance. Something inside of the alcoholic is a bit off and causes them to self medicate and self destruct. Alcohol is just one vehicle for doing so. There are other options available and alcoholics will eventually find them if they are not working on a positive solution for more healthy living.
You can’t just stop drinking booze and expect recovery to happen. You have to work for it by creating positive change in your life on an ongoing basis. This is the growth that fuels recovery.
Can you quit drinking alone?
Of course people actually have quit drinking alcohol alone but it is not recommended for the reasons listed above. But there are other reasons to seek treatment and find others to help you with quitting drinking.
Part of the definition of alcoholism is that we cannot stop drinking by ourselves. If we could then it would not be a true addiction. The fact that we are hopelessly addicted means that we need help in order to quit. This is another strong reason to seek treatment.
At a treatment center, you will get help in several ways, all of which give you a great advantage over trying to quit on your own:
1) Peer support – in treatment, you will meet other people who are trying to quit drinking just like you are. Believe it or not you can help each other to stay sober. This is a powerful concept in recovery.
2) New knowledge – you will learn a great deal in treatment about how to live a life without alcohol. You will learn from the therapists and counselors, as well as from your peers. This is important because when we first get sober, we do not know enough information about how to live sober. We need new knowledge for recovery.
3) Safe environment - you will not be as tempted to drink or use drugs because you will be in a safe and supportive environment.
In early recovery, networking with other people is especially important. Don’t try to quit drinking alone or you’ll only make it harder on yourself. Use the benefits of working with others in recovery to your advantage and your chances of staying sober will increase greatly.

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What does it take to stay sober in the long run?
After you quit drinking, you of course have the rest of your life ahead of you to deal with. How are you going to do it sober? If you can’t answer this question, then you need to take action and find out what your path in sobriety is going to consist of.
Nobody stays sober by sitting on the couch all day and wishing that their life was different. If you want to quit drinking then you have to actually do something. Recovery demands action. If you just focus on eliminating the drinking behavior then you are going to fail. You have to replace that life of drinking with a life of passion and purpose. You have to find things that excite you in recovery and get involved with them. Essentially, you must create a new life for yourself in recovery.
Creation is the key to long term sobriety. Creating this new life is how you actually quit drinking in the long run. If you don’t create a new life that is worth living, then you will eventually return to the drinking.
Let’s face it: alcoholics love to drink. It is their passion. So would you expect them to walk away from this passion and live a boring and uneventful life? It will never happen. The alcoholic knows that they can find at least some excitement and satisfaction with being drunk, even if it brings some misery along with it. Over time, the alcoholic will remember the good times of drinking and forget how miserable it ended up making them. This will lead to relapse if they do not have a compelling reason to stay sober.
Therefore, you need a compelling reason to stay sober. The way to find this reason is to create it in your life. Find your passion. Find your joy. Find a way to reach out and help other people in recovery. Create a life that is worth living sober and you will remain sober. If you get lazy and allow yourself to stagnate and become bored then your mind will return to thoughts of drinking.
Purpose. Meaning. Passion.
Quit drinking alcohol and start living. Simple as that.
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@ Veerende – I would strongly urge you to find a way to go to rehab, as quitting drinking can be dangerous. A proper medical detox is the best way to go, really.
Good luck…
I have been so inspired by all of you. I’m totally addicted to alcohol… trying to quit for 2011. I just wish that I could go to rehab but I have kids…
I’m at my time to quit drinking , my vaporising weed really helps and I want this year to be the best and get out of my deppresion caused by binge drinking alone and when I drink socially I find people to just become idiots and wish my friends would sober up too
I’m so tired of drugs and alcohol. I’ve been drinking since I was 14 yrs old. I’m 35 yrs. old now and my life has gone to crap. I am a binge drinker and pill popper. I feel like life is not worth living, I have zero passion for life. I want things to change but I keep freakin relapsing and its so frustrating. I find it really hard to trust people. I hate being alone and not having a relationship yet I keep pushing everyone away with my behavior. I tell people what they want to hear, reel them in then crap all over them. My behavior is not normal when I’m high, its actually extremely disturbing. Sometimes I feel so confused and I don’t know who I am or what I want, just a complete mess. I want to be sober and have a semi decent life. I’m not married and I don’t have any children. I would like to someday but I don’t want to put a child through what I went through. I think abuse is pass on through generations and the thought of emotionally and physically abusing a child is horrible. I don’t think my parents planned to abuse me but they did because they were abused as well. I need counseling and help to deal with a lot of things in my life if I’m going to have a shot. Living this way is horrible. Constant depression and fear is no way to live life. I don’t have a supportive family or friends. I do have a drug counselor and sponsor I talk to occasionally. I know why I keep holding myself back from recovery. I hate when things don’t go my way. I don’t have a problem with being honest about my problems( obviously) but I don’t know how to deal with my memories. If someone can give me any suggestions on how to live a sober life and make sober friends and try to keep them I would really appreciate it. Thanks
i have been drinking heavily or maybe not so heavily since teenage hood parents breaking up,moving out on my own at 16,sister going through abortions,living with a older man that i married and having failed relationships,i wondered what is wrong with me i have not got shakes but i turn to a drink when frustrated
All u guys.
Respect to all u. Drinking is a habbit….eating is the same….breathing..watching or seeing with eyes…or touching….smelling….all are blessings…did we drink alcohol when we were born………..think….didnt we sleep at that time…..its bloody booze brain..no lessons would help..its your mind..your body..your life……………
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Respect to all u. Drinking is a habbit….eating is the same….breathing..watching or seeing with eyes…or touching….smelling….all are blessings…did we drink alcohol when we were born………..think….didnt we sleep at that time…..its bloody booze brain..no lessons would help..its your mind..your body..your life……………
I have been a heavy drinker for over 25 years and all you friends here who are asking for advice, congratulations – you have made the first step, which is admitting that you have a problem and wanting to do something about it. I now enjoy life so much more, that I am not drinking. No more feeling crappy in the morning, no more hiding and avoiding the ringing telephone, no more counting the beers in the fridge and looking at the clock and thinking when the store closes…I feel free after being a prisoner of my addiction. And trust me, cutting back or only keeping it to the weekends etc. only works for a short time. I have fooled myself with that too many times. I wish you all strength and determination!!! You can do it, you can do anything, if you put your mind to it. For information, I had to go to the emergency room a few times over the years – that’s how bad I was…I missed work very often and the only way I could get dry is by doing a step by step withdrawal. Not everyone can do that. As mentioned above, quitting suddenly can be dangerous also. If you can’t do it, seek help. It’s an illness and there are people out there, willing to help. Good luck and god bless.
Oh, another important thing: find something to do – ANYTHING! You have to keep busy and occupy your mind. Hang out with non drinking people. Drink tons of tea and juice. I make a gallon of green tea every day and drink it cold.
I gave up drinking 2 years ago for 6 months. I thought that after that period of time it would be easier to manage my drinking. I decided to drink 1 night just to see how it would be. I ended up drinking way too much as my body could not handle it. I have since gotten help with a support group and they put in place a lot of little interventions that helped me quit drinking for a period of 10 weeks. That was good until I tried managing my drinking again.
It was going well until recently when my father suffered a ruptured brain anuerysm. My days were spent at hospital then every afternoon when I arrived home I would drink until I would pass out after many beers/tears. I have since had the urge to drink everyday. My next few months will be interesting as I will trying to quit again as I feel my life is getting away from me again. Friends are now saying that I drink like they new me to previously and they aren’t being supportive. My best support for this now is me and I’m determined to prove them wrong as well because I know now that I can do it and the willpower you find within will help me along the way. The hardest part is my friends are all heavy drinkers and want me to drink with them. I still drink more than them anytime I drink so it is up to me to keep my mind strong when I am around them
I’m in college and i can predict what my life will be like if i continue to drink. it hinders me from achieving excellence and its def time to stop.
I am a binge drinker, and just like the article says I have been living in denial about it for years. Today I finally accepted it is a problem and have decided to make a change and remove alcohol from my life for good. It is hindering my life, relationships,success and I am going to take control and no longer let it be in control of me by never having a sip again.
I have had a drink every single day of my life since my late teens. Have had great jobs but always lose them. I just want to stop but it is very hard, it feels like being w/o alcohol is not normal. It is also hindering my family life.
i am 46 years young, but feel very old; 2010 was a good year as I drank but twice. I have had five episodes so far in 2011 and I am now suicidal as I cannot bare the knowledge of the harm I have committed to my family. I have been battling drinking and drugging for the last 20 some years and the problem stems all the way back to adolescence. Every foot forward results in a greater crash when I return to drinking. Sometimes I think it would be better to go live under a bridge.
Brian S. Your story is a sad, and unfortunately all too common one. Please seek help and don’t do anything rash. Your family may have suffered because of your substance issues, but you cannot atone for your actions if you commit suicide and leave them shell shocked and alone. Show them you have changed, make them your priority. Do anything it takes to show them that you care enough about them to change. If it is to late to be reconciled with them, then change for yourself. Life is too precious and fleeting to throw away. It is not going to be easy. I wish you the best of luck, don’t give up.
I am struggling with alcohol myself. Even if we think it’s just a harmless couple, not doing us and our families any harm it’s because we’re deluding ourselves. Alcohol is incredibly destructive for those of us who don’t know how to control it.
The hardest thing for me is that I genuinely enjoy a drink. How do we get past that? Not doing something that brings you great pleasure is a tough ask for anyone. Moderation is not possible (if you’re like me) So, if it must be all or nothing then surely it must be nothing? Then why does that sound so wrong? Why are we cursed with being incapable of a cheeky couple of drinks with friends that don’t lead to massive consumption long after everybody else has stopped?
I know there is no other way than to stop, but my brain won’t allow me to make the final decision, it keeps making deadlines in the future. The rational part has been hijacked by booze, and it’s like a squatter I can’t get rid of, and secretly have a very soft spot for.
I am in my late twenties and my relationship with alcohol has kept me achieving anything substantial in life. It has prevented me for finishing school, having a career, getting married, having children. I have ruined relationships and friendships due to binge drinking. I have let down those closest to me. These are all realizations that have occurred in the past year or so. As of today, I really accepted that I have a problem and need to change my life. I function day to day, go to school, go to work, etc. I usually only drink 1 or 2 times a week. But, when I do I can’t stop once I start. If it’s in public, it usually ends with me in a fight with somebody. There is some switch in my brain that occurs after I drink heavily and I become a monster. On the outside I appear to be a bright young attractive woman but on the inside I have a void the size of God that I try to fill endlessly with booze or other non-conducive distractions. I want to be free of these shackles. I want to be happy and learn to love myself again, I want to be free of shame and guilt and brokenness. I want to have healthy loving relationships and to be able to be successful in school/career and to have a family of my own one day. I know what I need to do now but I’m scared for the road ahead. Alcohol has shaped my identity from the time I was 13 until today (age 28). I’ve never lived as an adult without drinking. I hope that I’m able to do this, psychologically, that is. I’m not physically dependent. I’m planning on starting aa meetings this week and implementing a “health nut” sort of lifestyle to replace the time that revolved around drinking or planning to drink. I need to feel like a new person. If anyone can offer help, I really need it. Thanks everyone.
Also, to those that are going through this hard journey, know that you aren’t alone. You will make it through if you just hang on.
Anonymous: I can completely relate to what you are saying…and the monster switch. Thank you for you statement that I am not alone. We are all working this thing together. Don’t be afraid of the road ahead as a sober person. The road ahead that is wet with booze is truly more frightening. Thanks again for your post and be strong.
Started drinking heavily at age 19 with a fake ID I purchased. I am now 36 and what you would call a weekend binge drinker. I can stay stone cold sober but come Friday, I tear it up. I realize while in this state, I always tell the SAME old stories, same old boring jokes and yet repeat the same ole philisophical yarns as well.
I want it to end. Contacted a local AA rep today and am waiting to hear back from them. It is getting old deciding how much “beer money” I will need when pay day arrives. No way to live and I am seeking help. Just wanted to share.
@ Richard – God bless and good luck to you. I think you will make it just fine. Stay humble and learn everything you can about recovery.
I’m dating a person that’s an alcoholic. I’m not an alcoholic and don’t fully understand what it is to be one. I have grown up around alcoholics and never went that route. I just want to know how to be more supportive. I don’t drink often and wouldn’t mind leaving it at the way side. I just don’t know how to fully be supportive having not been there before.
Sometimes we can’t blame the alcohol for not being a success at school or work or whatever. You’d be surprise how many successful people drank when things were good and when they were bad. What I am learning in sobriety is the problem wasn’t alcohol. Many emotional, mental issues will come up once you stop drinking. Alcohol is but a symptom of something else. Maybe a painful past, or some people just have the genetics. Try AA meetings, there are lots of young people AA meetings too, it’s a support group that is free of cost, and will work if you work it! We are not a glum lot, lots of laughing is heard at meetings too.
I am grateful for the comments made here, i am an alcoholic, i have been since my teens (43 now) and have been sober only 6months during that time. like everyone else, i go through the horrors that you all do, i am the same as many, the downs, not os many ups, i like to drink, but also hate it as well. i want to quit, i just find it so hard, at least im thinking about it, and im confident it will happen one day. thank you for you words, its good to know you are all going through what i am as well. best of luck to you all
Are there any online support groups as well i can try?
@ Stw – check out the forums here:
http://www.spiritualriver.com/forum/
my name is eddie and im 30 years old i wana quit drinking i been drinking for 7 months now is quitting can be easy or harder ???? i need help
I have have Stopped for 26 days this time. I had a 3 day bender after 62 days. I have many more sober day this year than the previous 5. I am tired of starting over again once again at day one. I have more white chips than I care to count. Now is the the time
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