Having alcohol to comfort you all the time, you donít really worry about tomorrow and whether your life is going in the right direction. In fact, back then I didnít care less about whether I lived or died.
Considering that I underwent the first step several times and admitted I needed help, it appears that I did care after all. As many of us already know, the way you perceive help plays a significant role in the success or failure of your recovery. If you canít be honest with your helpers, then you canít really benefit from a personalized recovery treatment that can set you free.
Tearing the web of lies is part of the recovery
Regardless of how much you want to deny it, the truth is that non-addicts tend to perceive alcoholics Ė even recovering alcoholics Ė as people with weak characters who they simply cannot trust. You canít really blame them considering the lengths that some addicts can go to in order to get the cash they need to buy booze.
Even though I never got to the point of feigning I have cancer to con strangers for alcohol money, I did lie to my parents, wife, friends, and co-workers. This is why I understand where all the dishonesty is coming from.
Besides lying to the people you love the most, alcohol addiction also causes you to be untruthful to yourself. Lying to yourself can be very destructive, as you tend to get so caught up in this pattern that is as tough to break as the addiction itself.
Getting back to admitting you have a problem, I want to underline that wanting to change is not enough in alcohol recovery. You canít just walk into a rehab center and expect to walk out of there the next morning clean and sober. In short, you need to take action and work hard to break free from your addiction.
Recovery means full disclosure
When I first agreed to undergo rehab, I really wanted to show everyone around me that Iím not an addict and that I wasnít like the other patients there. However, the truth is that you donít typically end up in a rehab center unless itís necessary.
Therefore, admitting you have a drinking problem means you need to become conscious of your addiction. In addition, you need to get over your embarrassment and refrain from raising a wall of defenses against the staff there. Being sincere in this case means full disclosure.
Honesty wasnít easy to practice because I was quite used to keeping things to myself. Iím also aware of how difficult it is to actually share highly personal details and specific information about daily habits. But I can guarantee itís worth it.
First and foremost, adopting the full disclosure policy implies youíre no longer feeding the ďme against themĒ mentality. Keep in mind that the staff is not there to pass judgment and has probably heard it all before; theyíre unlikely to be shocked by what you have to say.
In addition, you will help the trained personnel get a clear and concise understanding of your current situation. Consequentially, they will be able to formulate an initial recovery strategy that would suit your needs.