Here are some of the more important recovery from alcohol facts that can help you to recover:
1) Most recovering alcoholics relapse within the first year.
So that is where you need to place most of your effort. Makes sense, right? The idea here is to use overwhelming force, because that is what will get you through this tough stage of recovery. Look at the difference between alcoholics who do not go to treatment at all and try to recovery, versus those who go to long term rehab and stay for the duration. Who do you think fares better? This is an example of using overwhelming force in early recovery.
2) Socializing with other recovering alcoholics is not a recovery solution.
One of the facts of alcohol recovery is that using a social solution like AA and not digging any deeper into the program itself is a recipe for failure. Yet this is what nearly the entire population of recovering alcoholics will do in their early recovery. They hear that “meeting makers make it” and that they should do “90 meetings in 90 days.” Both are terrible suggestions that are misleading to the newcomer. If meetings kept people clean and sober then why do so many people continuously relapse and then come back to meetings? Anyone can observe this phenomenon happening on a very large scale.
Meetings are not the solution. The solution to alcoholism is not social. It is holistic. The solution is holistic. So part of it might be social. And part of it is spiritual, and so on. Don’t get stuck in the idea that you can just go to meetings every day and your life will become better again. There is real work involved in recovery, and sitting in meetings is not a big part of this work.
3) Complacency is the number one offender.
People who frequent traditional recovery programs think that resentment is the biggest threat to their recovery. Its not. Complacency is. And people in AA get complacent all the time, sitting around meetings all day and thinking they have found “acceptance of self.” Instead of accepting themselves, they should be pushing themselves to grow and learn more in their recovery. This is the real key to a lifetime of sobriety in which you continue to grow and evolve as a person. Those who stay stuck in “self acceptance” mode are not likely to experience the long term benefits of sobriety.