I lived in a sober living home for a period of almost 20 months when I first got clean and sober. That was over 10 years ago and I have been clean and sober ever since then. For me, living in a sober home was the answer that I had not been willing to embrace up to that point. I was not willing to attend long term rehab because I was not fully surrendered to my disease of addiction yet. And I was stubborn.
Once I finally became willing to change my life, I checked into a detox and short term facility. Then I went from there directly to long term. I knew that I needed a sober house to live in because I was such a mess; my life was a total wreck, and I had been to short term rehab before and they recommended long term every time.
So the thing is that there are all sorts of different recovery homes out there that you might move into for help. Some of them are halfway houses, some are three quarter houses, and some are long term rehab facilities with staff and therapists and stuff. So there is a whole range of possibilities. However, your options might be limited based on your location and what is available in your immediate area. Also, your options might be limited based on your funding and your financial situation.
For example, some long term rehabs are set up for homeless people only. Therefore, if you still have housing, you may not qualify to live there.
Others might be set up to take insurance or they have a very high cost per day. In that case, you might not be able to go unless you have a lot of money or really good health insurance.
And others might be set up to only take in certain periods of sobriety. For example, they might not take people who have already been sober for over 90 days. Also, most of these types of rehabs can not provide detox, as that is a medical procedure that requires medical staffing. So it is likely that you will have to go to a residential facility first and get detoxed before you move into a sober house.
Now if you do get into a long term facility or a halfway house, here is what you can do to maximize your experience:
* Do not assume that your recovery is insured. The success rates of these places are generally just as bad as short term rehabs, maybe only slightly better in most cases. This means that you are in for the fight of your life to stay clean. Make sure you put in a full effort into your recovery. Living in a sober home does not insure your success.
* Follow the house rules.
* Spend a lot of extra time and energy seeking help for your recovery outside of the home. If you base your recovery in the house, then you will be on shaky ground when you eventually move on.
* Stay as long as you can. When you think you are ready to leave, you are probably not quite there yet. Use the help and support while you have the opportunity.
* Try to get training and/or education while you are living there. It is a perfect opportunity to expand your horizons and try to grow a bit. Don’t just get in a rut or settle for something that is uninspiring to you. If you can go back to school or college while living there, do it.
If you are looking for such a home to move into, I would suggest that you start by phoning local treatment centers and asking questions. If you call all of the rehabs in your area and ask them all if there are any halfway house type resources around, someone will surely point you in the right direction.