Stability might be a foreign concept to most recovering addicts and alcoholics. We are more used to the chaos and roller coaster that comes from a life lived in active addiction.
In fact, some of us might even feel uncomfortable if things get stable in our lives. We might even sabotage our own lives if things start to go too smoothly.
But having a stable life in recovery is a wonderful thing. However, it is not the goal of recovery. Instead, it is one product of living the creative theory. Let’s see how this actually works:
Practicing the 3 strategies leads to stability
Each of the 3 strategies directly leads to increased stability in our lives. Take the strategy of “caring for self.” Following this simple strategy can prevent all sorts of chaos and havoc in our lives. We are less likely to engage in risky behavior or to take unnecessary risks if we are truly caring for ourselves. From a long term perspective, caring for ourselves in a holistic sense will cut down on the overall problems and health issues that we will have in the long run.
In short, good health leads to stability. This goes beyond our physical health as well. Caring for ourselves emotionally can smooth out our lives in a big way as well.
Now consider the strategy of “pushing for personal growth.” We might initially think that this could be a disruptive way to live, but this is not the case. When we push ourselves to grow, what we are really doing is narrowing our focus and reducing the clutter in our lives. The push for growth doesn’t increase complexity – it actually simplifies our lives as we now have a concrete goal that we can focus on.
Finally, consider the idea of “networking with others.” Again, we might think that this would bring chaos into our life but the exact opposite occurs. When we reach out to other addicts, it simplifies our life as we focus on the positive relationships that are formed. Supportive connections in early recovery make staying clean easier than if we did not have the support.
Creating with purpose leads to stability
When we discover purpose in our life, stability follows naturally. This is because having a purpose drives our actions and focuses our efforts. We no longer have to flounder around and search for meaning.
For example, consider someone who finds their purpose in sponsorship through a 12 step fellowship. While this is not my chosen path, it is a path of purpose and can lead to good things. By being involved with recovery at such an intimate level, a sponsor derives purpose in their life and this eventually leads to more stability. Priorities shift and the sponsor can focus on what is important and what is not.
In other words, if you find purpose then you are finding meaning in your life. Doing so will guide you towards stability in order to pursue and protect your purpose. Having something important in your life will guide your actions towards stability.
When we create something of value in our life then we are more likely to protect it.
Creating the life we really want demands discipline
If you have a creative vision for something you want to achieve in recovery, this requires discipline and that will also contribute to stability.
For example, say you want to become a licensed therapist and reach out and help others in that way. Doing so will require quite a commitment on your part to education. Obviously this education will take some real effort over an extended time period. Positive habits + routine leads to more stability.
Or, say you want to start exercising every day. If you set your mind to it and actually achieve the goal of doing so, this daily ritual of exercise will become a huge pillar of stability in your life – a powerful effect that most of us would not be able to predict. Regular exercise can be huge for recovery.
In other words, positive habits require discipline and creating these habits in the long term leads to stability in our lives.
This stability is part of the foundation of our recovery. Realize too that we remain stable because of our continued growth in recovery. Our push for growth is what creates our focus.