The key to getting sober is massive action. The key to staying sober is balance and holistic growth. There is a huge difference here and those who do not heed this difference are headed for a possible relapse in their recovery.
The process of getting sober requires massive amounts of action. What does this mean? It means that the drug addict or alcoholic who is still using and is sort of stuck in an emotional state where they wished that things were different is not going to get anywhere. They are not getting anywhere because they are just sitting around, wishing that their life was different. It is amazing that as addicts and alcoholics, we somehow believe that this is enough to change our life. We believe this because we know that we have a thinking disease. Our thoughts are what screw us up. Our thoughts are what drive us to drink and use drugs. So we believe that if we could just straighten out our thinking, then we could become sober.
This does not work. Why doesn’t it work? A wise man (I think it was Einstein) once said “You cannot solve a problem at the same level that it was created at.” So we have a thinking disease called addiction, and we are trying to solve this problem with more thinking. Not gonna happen.
Our thinking is what created our addiction. We made the best decisions we could (at the time) and we ended up drunk. Our life was a train wreck due to our drinking, and our thinking.
In order to solve this problem, we have to go up a level. We have to move beyond thinking. We have to move beyond armchair philosophy. It would be nice if we could just sit around and think ourselves sober. But it cannot be done. To change our life, we have to take action.
This is the whole key to early sobriety. You have to do stuff. You have to get involved. You have to experiment. You have to leverage what is working for you.
Go to therapy, go to meetings, see a counselor, get a sponsor, work the steps, help others, exercise, meditate, pray, and so on. This is the tip of the iceberg. You should organize your new life around taking positive action every single day. Anything less than this is going to result in failure.