Our Western culture adheres to a very dangerous idiom, at least when it comes to alcohol and drug abuse: all people deserve to be happy and †anything getting in the way of their happiness is an overall bad thing.
However, happiness means different things to different people. For me, happiness came in the form of neat whiskey. Because it brought me relief and made me forget all about my work problems, you can imagine I wasn’t willing to give it up without a fight. As I learned from the AA program, resentment and keeping all that negativity boiled up inside is a surefire way of sabotaging your own recovery.
The “happiness in a glass” is the biggest lie you tell yourself
Recovering from alcohol addiction is all about giving up the thing that made the most sense in your life. Your universe will be stationary, until you decide to quit drinking. Then again, renouncing alcohol is only the start, as you will need to work hard in order to bring back happiness into your life.
The reason why I turned to alcohol in the first place was that I felt uncomfortable about the unfairness at work. Now I know that even if there’s a remote chance I could get my old position back, things are likely to be the same at the office.
Because you can’t really change corporate culture by yourself, you have no other choice but to give up on certain beliefs and behaviors. If you manage to feel comfortable in your new life away from addiction, then you will surely fight harder to keep it. †Easier said than done, of course.
It’s difficult, but don’t give up!
You could put in an effort and sober up for a few months. However, if you donít let go of the negativity, you’re pretty likely to relapse. Letting go of things is not a solution patented by the AA, but an actually common practice in numerous spiritual awakening programs.
One of the first things I managed to let go of was the need to blame other people. If I keep blaming my boss for my own problems, it means I’m scared and I’m using an excuse to avoid taking action. Moreover, it means I’m afraid to take responsibility for my own life.
By complaining so much about work, I didn’t accomplish anything but irritating and possibly frustrating the people around me. All that complaining does is build up more negativity inside and drain your motivation. Whining is also dangerous during recovery as it can easily push you into relapse. Instead of using all your energy towards pointing out what’s wrong with the world, you should focus your attention on making the best of the hand youíve been dealt.
I’m well aware there’s still a long road ahead of me. Still, I can say that after I’ve managed to chip away some of my negativity I’m convinced getting to the end of the road will bring me a greater form of happiness. Give yourself a chance and I’m sure you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the results.