For anyone who doesn’t know, the story of the 3 frogs is this:

3 frogs were sitting on a lily pad and 1 of them decided to jump off. How many frogs were left?

The answer is 3….just making a decision does not mean that they took action. A good reminder about where the real recovery happens…..not in our heads, but in our daily actions.

Thanks for that, Jared!

And as you said, if you are growing in your recovery. It’s easy to tell who is growing spiritually in a meeting, who is doing the work, and who is not doing much the other 23 hours of the day. But we’re here for everyone and if they keep coming back and their lives are better for it, good for them.

I have gone through periods, especially early on when my life revolved around meetings and the power of the group. I still see how some use the group to hide from what’s going on in life. My old home group had a few couches in it and was open almost 24 hours a day. We used to tell people not to sit on the couches, because once they did they’d never get up. They hid out in meetings and didn’t learn much about relationships with others and how to grow spiritually.

@Joe,
I agree with you someone in that “Life is too short to be sorting out our past for weeks when we are dying from alcohol or drugs today.”

My first few times in treatment I believe I had this illusion that if I just fixed what was wrong with me (what made me a victim from my past) then I was cured and basically could drink/drug like a normal person. (whatever that is)

The real healing began when I got into action by working the steps and with my sponsor, forgave myself for my past, and simply did the work. Not sitting around intellectualizing about recovery.

Like the three frogs story…. you know the one ;-)