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I have a 52 yr old co-worker that has been drinking for over 30 years. He just completed 3 days at charter peachford and they allowed him to come home. I just talked to him and he is wanting to drink. He explained that his insurance only covered so much and that is why he was allowed to come home. He is wanting to take a drink and I am looking for some type of program that takes him in for a # of days or weeks. He is single and is on the edge of losing his job. He wants help but at the same time is in denial of needing it. Please help me help him. He has Kaiser Insurance.

I have 42 year old son who is an alcoholic. He has been to Peachford for a limited number of days, to a detox in Dalton, Georgia 3 years ago, to Christian Love Ministeries in Hayesville N.C. last year for 6 minths. He has not been sobe since.
He lives with his father who enables him with paying his child support, feeding
him, sheltering him, allowing him to be drunk in his home.
I have just had a call from my son and he was so sorry. No hope, no direction, no
job, no money. Believes the only place left for him to go is to a State Mental ffacility. Is there anything that can be done for him or a program that would be
affordable? I am so afraid for him and broken hearted that I do not have the majic touch to help. Is there some help?

I have been separated from my husband for 2 years. I began dating my high school sweetheart a year and a half ago. He has been in jail and rehab for selling and being addicted to drugs. We got back in touch while he was in rehab, began dating over a year later and started living together 6 months ago. I have never been into hard drugs but do drink. We actually drink together. He has had lots of financial pressure lately and lost his job in November. Finding a new job has been difficult due to his record.

In January he started being distant. I noticed he was becoming sneaky and caught him in some lies. I immediately thought he was cheating. One night while we were out I checked his phone. Not proud of it but I was suspicious and feeling insecure because I didn’t understand his behavior. Instead of finding another woman, I found a drug deal. I freaked. It had never occured to me that he may be involved with drugs again. When he went to jail he lost everything. His wife, his kids, his business, his money, peoples trust, his dignity…. Poof gone. So to see that on his phone threw me for a loop. We got into a huge fight. The next day I went to his parents for advice and support since they had been through his previous breakdown. His mother took the information and and basically called up the others involved and got them in trouble. My boyfriend was really upset with me but assured me that I had overreacted. He wasn’t involved with drugs again he was just doing someone a favor. I believed him but in turn lost his trust for snooping and going to his parents.

Long story short, I recently went on vacation with my family. My husband and I have remained friends and want nothing but the best for our kids. He won a trip for 4 to Florida and invited me along. He knows I have a boyfriend and has even met him. We are NOT romantically involved and have absolutely no plans for a reconciliation. I asked my boyfriends opinion and he told me I should go, relax and have fun with my kids. I went and my boyfriend stopped answering my calls and texted me back periodically. I landed in the airport last Monday to a voicemail telling me that he needed to take a break. He has a problem that I’m not officially divorced. It’s not me it’s him. He wants to be friends. When I got home I had to pack up his stuff and bring it to his parents.

I am devastated. I discovered that he is using again. He is with another woman as well. I am raw and numb. We haven’t seen each other in 2 weeks and have only spoken on the phone three times since I’ve returned. I love him with all that I am. He loves me. I know it. We are meant to be together. I wrote him a letter letting him know that I will always be here for him. That I love him enough to let him go find himself and that hopefully in the future we can be friends. He knows that I know about the woman but not about the drugs.

I have spent this week attending AA meetings to help me understand addiction. I realize now that I in fact am an alcoholic. With all the research that I’ve done I see just how wrongly I handled so many situations with him. I’m beginning to see that I pushed away. I see that he is and always will be an addict. I see that I should have done the research earlier. He is my best friend. He is hurting. He is confused, broke, ashamed, stressed out and using cocaine, pot and pills. I’m terrified. I feel guilty and alone and totally hopeless. I moved to another state with my children to live with him. We vowed to get married and be together. I know that he loves me. I love him and am so worried that I’m literally going insane.

What should I do? I’ve stopped calling and trying to contact him. I want to give him room to breathe and to not feel like hes backed into a corner. I want him to know that I love him. That I am here for him and he can trust me. I want to give him the space that he needs but I am so afraid that he will end up in jail or worse. I am trying to understand the mind of an addict and am trying to do the right things. I plan on going to AA for myself. I am trying to take responsibility for my life and my actions. I want and need to get myself healthy so that I can be a better mother and person. I know that I cannot control him. I cannot force him to come home. I cannot expect a perfect outcome. But right now I can’t sleep or eat. I am afraid to go anywhere so we don’t run into each other. Every time the phone rings my heart leaps into my throat. I am a good person. I am realizing that I am stronger than I thought I was. I love him so much. I miss my best friend. We have talked or been together every day for 2 years. I’ve known him for 31 years and now he has vanished. What should I do? Leave him alone? Move on? Try contacting him? Should I just believe that the last 2 years of our lives meant nothing? I don’t believe that he did this because I’m not divorced. I believed him when he said that he didn’t want to hurt me and that he thought he was going to. I now believe that he has given up. He has pushed me away so that he can use drugs and get wasted on vodka without me bugging him.

Please help me. I don’t know what to do.