What do you do if you find is so hard NOT to help the alcoholic? You feel if you don't help them, something terrible will happen to them. You feel battered, exhausted and worn down but you feel you have to still keep helping. How do you break free from this? What is the kindest thing to do to genuinely help the alcoholic? I have given every ounce of my energy to trying to help this person and things just seem to be getting worse and worse, its such a terrible mess. I would be so grateful if anyone could reply and offer any words of wisdom. Thank you.