Sober, yet still craving terribly after 2 years

[mom of sober drinker]

My son (late 20s) has been sober and without drugs for almost 2 years, yet he is having major anxiety/problems with wanting to drink still. It is all consuming at times. He has had a lot of success in the past 2 years - going back to college, internship, etc... but he says his life is as miserable now as when he was drinking. He thinks of a beer from the moment he wakes up until he goes to sleep some days (per his comment). He tries to tell himself at times that he will hold off on drinking until point in the future, then he says he knows if he starts again he will become a drunk again, then he will tell himself he will be able to drink like "normal" people.
I think it is strange that after 2 years the hold on him would still be so strong - is this normal? How should I react when he says these type things to me? All I say now is that I don't have a crystal ball and have no idea what will happen to him if he ever takes a drink again. Any advice?

[Samantha]

Hi mom! If you can I would suggest maybe he looks at this forum. Give him the website. Patrick just posted on the home page a great article on exactly what your son is going through. If he comes to the forum he can talk about whats going on with him. Sometimes just talking to another alcoholic is so strengthening to your sobriety. I think you gave him good advice too and you must be a good mom if he confides in you. Good luck to you.