http://www.spiritualriver.com/drinking-problem/ Non-traditional recovery from addiction Thu, 09 Feb 2012 00:09:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://www.spiritualriver.com/drinking-problem/comment-page-2/#comment-124434 L Tue, 20 Sep 2011 13:36:25 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=387#comment-124434 Patrick - thank you for this article. I found it very helpful and I am in the process of taking a deep look at me. I love drinking wine, look forward to opening a bottle each evening and then finishing it. I never drink and drive. I have a very strong will and know that I can stop drinking when I choose, as I did when i was pregnant with both of my children and with some related surgeries. Most recently I had a total hip replacement (due to a joint disease to which my dance career left me susceptible). I took none of the pain killers prescribed to me even immediately following the surgery and I drank very little while in recovery at home. My choice. BUT - I have issues around my family (mother and sister) and as my immediate family (husband and children) are an "entitlement" to them, I find I drink much more when in their presence, and I get angry. Around my sister I get judged and dismissed I become very angry, and then she calls me an alcoholic. We have had 2 very ugly fights. I believe that I have a drinking problem, I have always understood this. No blackouts, no law issues....certainly I recognize my drinking to sadness attached to my youth and family (mother/sister). I feel very strongly about believing that I am not an alcoholic....I do wonder if that is part of denial or if I do have an abuse issue that I can (if I choose) manage. Patrick – thank you for this article. I found it very helpful and I am in the process of taking a deep look at me. I love drinking wine, look forward to opening a bottle each evening and then finishing it. I never drink and drive. I have a very strong will and know that I can stop drinking when I choose, as I did when i was pregnant with both of my children and with some related surgeries. Most recently I had a total hip replacement (due to a joint disease to which my dance career left me susceptible). I took none of the pain killers prescribed to me even immediately following the surgery and I drank very little while in recovery at home. My choice. BUT – I have issues around my family (mother and sister) and as my immediate family (husband and children) are an “entitlement” to them, I find I drink much more when in their presence, and I get angry. Around my sister I get judged and dismissed I become very angry, and then she calls me an alcoholic. We have had 2 very ugly fights.
I believe that I have a drinking problem, I have always understood this. No blackouts, no law issues….certainly I recognize my drinking to sadness attached to my youth and family (mother/sister). I feel very strongly about believing that I am not an alcoholic….I do wonder if that is part of denial or if I do have an abuse issue that I can (if I choose) manage.

]]> http://www.spiritualriver.com/drinking-problem/comment-page-2/#comment-109799 Anonymous Sun, 19 Jun 2011 19:20:45 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=387#comment-109799 My partner drinks a bottle of wine everyday. She doesnt drink at work, but when she gets home she has her bottle of wine. I am so scared that this thing is going to get out of hand. She says that she doesnt have a problem and can leave the wine for only Fridays & Saturdays. This she promised me yesterday (Saturday) and tonight she already had some wine after what she promised. My sister and my brother are alcoholics and I am so scared that my partner is going to walk the same road. I can not do that, what should I do?? My partner drinks a bottle of wine everyday. She doesnt drink at work, but when she gets home she has her bottle of wine. I am so scared that this thing is going to get out of hand. She says that she doesnt have a problem and can leave the wine for only Fridays & Saturdays. This she promised me yesterday (Saturday) and tonight she already had some wine after what she promised. My sister and my brother are alcoholics and I am so scared that my partner is going to walk the same road. I can not do that, what should I do??

]]> http://www.spiritualriver.com/drinking-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-108002 Anonymous Tue, 07 Jun 2011 22:10:34 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=387#comment-108002 kathi is a legend... jus sayin' :) kathi is a legend… jus sayin’ :)

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