Comments on: Are you Living a Victim Mentality, or are You Actively Creating a New Life in Recovery?

By: Brent B

Brent B — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 03:56:03 +0000

Thank You for the article. I often have found the AA recovery model helpful in my life. I find people in recovery have a lot to offer and have great insights.
How can I as a friend to someone who has a victim mentality move her away from this approach to life. She has suffered a great deal in life. From child rape to physical abuse that has effected her mental functioning. However, she hides behind her mental impairment when it comes to choices she makes. She will often blame others for suggestions or “pushing” her in a given direction. When she makes that choice “they” are to blame when it doesnt work out. And believe me it never works out. Neither of us care much for the “smile and your cares will disappear” attitude. Life is a little to cruel for that. So I could not carry that approach off and she knows better of me. Any advice?

By: Patrick

Patrick — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 16:31:11 +0000

Thanks for the comment, Kayakotto. I would agree that justification fits right into the victim mentality. Recovery is about taking responsibility and doing something different. No more excuses!

By: Patrick

Patrick — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 16:31:10 +0000

Thanks for the comment, Kayakotto. I would agree that justification fits right into the victim mentality. Recovery is about taking responsibility and doing something different. No more excuses!