Here are some tips for how to stop drinking:
Find a medically supervised detox – Quitting drinking can be dangerous. In fact it can actually kill a person in some cases, so it makes sense to find a medically supervised detox. This will most likely be at a treatment center of some sort. If you happen to go this route, there is always the added bonus that you will encounter a support system from other recovering alcoholics while you are there.
Use the 3 strategies of creation
1) Care for yourself
2) Network with others
3) Push yourself to grow
You can learn more about the 3 strategies and how they can help you to stop drinking right here.
Use overwhelming force
This is the single most important mindset that you need to adopt in order to be successful.
If you look at all of the people out there who have tried to stop drinking, virtually all of them–at least at first–underestimate what it will take in order for them to stop. The typical alcoholic has to try their hand at recovery several times before they realize just how much conviction and dedication and positive action it takes to overcome their disease.
You can shortcut through this painful process of learning by simply accepting this simple fact: it takes an overwhelming amount of force to overcome alcoholism. What does this mean for you?
It means that if you’re going to 12 step meetings to try and stop drinking, then you have to throw yourself into them and go to them every day.
It means that if you’re using a therapist to guide you in recovery, then you need to be 100 percent honest with them and take every suggestion that they offer you without hesitation.
It means that if you go to treatment to stop drinking, you should follow their program to a “t” and participate with any aftercare recommendations they give you.
It doesn’t necessarily matter how you go about getting sober. What’s important is that you attack the problem with all of your strength. You can’t just give a 75 percent effort and expect to stay sober.
In short, you must dedicate your life to sobriety. Use overwhelming force to tackle your recovery and you will find success. Do anything short of this and you risk almost certain relapse.
Need more proof of this? Simply talk to some recovering alcoholics who have found long term sobriety. Ask them how hard it was to stay sober in the beginning and if they had to put forth extra effort at it. Every single person you ask will explain how they used overwhelming force in early recovery. Those who did not use an extreme approach are still out there drinking.
Change the structure of your life
This is especially important for younger people, in my opinion.
If you really want to stop drinking, you have to change everything. The way to do this is not through making small, minor changes in your life. Instead, think about big, sweeping structural changes, such as:
* Living in long term treatment for several months or even a year or more
* Drastically changing how you spend your time (sitting in the bar each night being replaced with meetings, etc.)
* Drastically changing your daily habits (from ritualized drinking every night to ritualized exercise at a gym, for example).
The reason this is so important for younger people is because of peer influence. If you strip away all the drinking buddies then what are you going to replace that with? Structural changes usually have an answer to that.
If people talk about changing their life so that they can stop drinking, look at how drastic their plan is. If they are only attempting surface-level changes without really altering the underlying structure of their life, then chances are good that they are headed for relapse. This goes back to the idea of overwhelming force. Alcoholism is tough to overcome and we need drastic action to succeed. Think big. Think structural change.
Have a vision to work towards
For most alcoholics, drinking was a passion. It affected every area of our life and it became almost a religion of sorts for us. We used drinking to create our life.
The idea of creation is important here. I can remember falling in love with alcohol and the effect that it produced on me and I wanted keep experiencing that. And so I set up my life to be a drunk. This is an act of creation. I was using drinking as my solution for everything. It became my only purpose in life. My whole point was to be drunk. I accepted this as a reason for existence. I knew that I was creating the life of a drunk. It became a willful act of creation for me.
I can even remember saying “I guess I was just meant to be drunk.”
So once you have made the switch to recovery, guess what? You still have to create. Creation is still important. In fact, you are always creating a new life for yourself, whether you are aware of it or not.
The first thing you have to consider is whether or not you want to be conscious of that creation. When we drank, most of us just forged ahead blindly, in a bit of a stupor. We did not give a lot of conscious thought to the idea that we were creating a drunken existence for ourselves.
In recovery, we have this same choice: consciousness or blanking things out. Awareness, or simply going through the motions.
There are people who sit in 12 step meetings every day that are largely dead inside. They are not excited about life and they are not excited about what they could create for their future.
I personally wanted more for myself. I had a vision for an awesome and exciting life in recovery and so I’m pursuing that vision. You should do the same. Find your passion and purpose in life. Find your vision.
Create something. That’s my number one tip.
It works for me. And, I see it working for others.