Getting help for alcohol abuse is not an easy thing for most people to do. It takes a bit of courage and a lot of guts to admit that you need help in order to stop drinking.
Now if you merely have a problem with alcohol abuse and are not really addicted to drinking, then your problem is not that serious and you can probably just cut back on your own. A more serious level of alcohol abuse is when you become dependent on alcohol as a way of life, and cannot really function for long periods of time without it. There is also the binge drinker who can possibly go for long periods without alcohol, but then eventually they always go back to the bottle and when they do, it is really a disaster. So if you are in a situation where you are either binge drinking or you can’t seem to function without alcohol at all, then you need to get serious help and that starts with asking for help.
How do you ask for help? Sometimes it is hard for the alcohol abuser to ask for help, as they may have an internal block against doing so. In that case they will have to suffer all the more before they become willing to do so. At some point though, they need to ask for guidance and direction and say “I don’t know how to live without alcohol. Please help me. Show me how to live without drinking.” That is the essence of surrender. That is the point that the alcoholic must get to. And they have to actually put that sentiment into action and act upon it. So they might do this by talking with a family member, and arranging to go to rehab. Or they might do this by talking with a friend, and agreeing to attend an AA meeting with that person. It does not matter how it happens so much, so long as they accept that they need serious help, and become willing to take real action in pursuing that help.
If an alcoholic decides to do something about their problem, but they do not ask for help in doing it, then they are still in a form of denial. Why? Because they cannot solve their own problem. If they could, then they would not be addicted. They need to surrender to the idea that they cannot solve their own addiction. They cannot manipulate the problem away. This is the level of acceptance that they must reach with their disease.
You know when the alcoholic is ready to change when they:
* Cease struggling for control of things and allow themselves to be directed towards the help that they need.
* Becomes willing to go to inpatient rehab in order to treat their addiction.
* Fully admit that alcohol has them beat, and that they cannot master the substance with their own power. They admit defeat openly.
Now if someone is merely abusing alcohol and is not a true alcoholic, then they should be able to walk away from the drink without major life complications. Those who cannot go on for long periods of time without self medicating in some way are likely struggling with more than just abuse….