If you’ve been forced into AA and you do not agree with the program or the philosophy that they teach, what are you going to do? Basically you have a decision to make at this point: do you want to stay sober or don’t you? Now if you are here reading this then obviously you have been forced into the program of AA and you do not agree with this and you are angry about it. But put that idea aside for a moment and simply ask yourself: do you want to be sober? Do you want to get clean and sober and change your life? Because if you do then that is a positive thing and you do not necessarily need AA to do it. I am not here to force any program down your throat and I am not going to try to convince you to give AA a chance. There is a lot of support to be had in 12 step meetings but if you want no part of it then that is fine.
However, if you still want to stay sober, then what are you going to do?
We need help in order to recover. If you could stop drinking on your own then chances are that you would have done so already. Instead you have suffered consequences that have led to your current situation. People don’t get forced into 12 step programs for eating too many Twinkies.
So at this point you need to decide if you really want to change your life. If you do then you must understand that it is going to require a huge, monumental effort on your part. Going to AA every single day would actually be a nice shortcut. If you want to do it on your own then that is fine; just understand the amount of work involved. In order to stay sober you will have to take massive action in your life.
What action do you have to take? Well since you are abandoning the AA program you will have to figure out much of that yourself. What I am telling you is that it is possible. You can figure out a path to sobriety but you are going to have to push yourself very hard in order to achieve it.
Basically you could follow another program of recovery or you could simply follow your own path. If you choose to follow your own path, here are some helpful guidelines:
1) Make abstinence your number one priority. Don’t drink or use drugs no matter what.
2) Find ways to help others in recovery. This will be hard outside of AA and NA but not impossible.
3) Push yourself aggressively to grow as a person. Seek holistic growth. Push yourself hard.
You can recover without the 12 step program but you are going to have to put in a massive effort. But realize that people in AA and NA have to put in the same massive effort too. They do not get a magic shortcut, even though they believe that they do. It is all hard work in the end.