Alcohol abuse family – alcoholism is a family disease, because it affects everyone in the family so much more than what the alcoholic really believes. It is devastating to the family in the long run because it tends to produce more alcoholics as the children absorb it as a learned behavior, even if they resent it and hate it as they are growing up. Many children of alcoholics hate alcohol and they hate drinking because of what they experienced in their childhood, but they still fall victim to the substance when they get older and turn into alcoholics themselves. This story plays itself out over and over again in thousands of families. Many, many alcoholics had an alcoholic parent, and many alcoholics vowed that they would never drink like that parent did. They promised to themselves that they would never go down that path, and they are disgusted with themselves when they end up alcoholic later on. They blame themselves heavily, and yet it is not really their fault at all. They inherited the behavior.
If you or someone in your family is suffering from alcohol abuse or alcoholism, then there are certain steps you might take to resolve the problem. It is not an easy situation to deal with and of course you can never really force a person to change against their will. Sometimes, trying to confront someone is only going to create further resentment. However, if things are bad enough, then this might be a risk worth taking.
Basically, you can confront the alcoholic, or you can decide not to. Those are the only two choices. The degree to which you confront them will vary quite a bit. For example, you might decide to “have a talk” with them. This might be when they are sober, or it might be a yelling match while they have been drinking.
Or, you might try for a more formal intervention. You might even hire an interventionist to help you conduct the intervention. You could go so far as to call some treatment centers in advance and try to secure a spot for the alcoholic before you confront them, in the hopes that they will agree to get help, and you can whisk them off to treatment.
This last bit is a bit of a fantasy that may or may not ever happen. You have to prepare yourself for the possibility that the alcoholic is not ready to change yet. It will happen in their time, not yours.