http://www.spiritualriver.com/addiction-recovery-and-relationships/ Non-traditional recovery from addiction Thu, 09 Feb 2012 11:09:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://www.spiritualriver.com/addiction-recovery-and-relationships/comment-page-2/#comment-155344 >> Relationships and Recovery From Addiction | addiction recovery centers Sat, 04 Feb 2012 04:26:11 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=396#comment-155344 [...] now I’d like to invite you to learn more about relationships and recovery. Come [...] [...] now I’d like to invite you to learn more about relationships and recovery. Come [...]

]]> http://www.spiritualriver.com/addiction-recovery-and-relationships/comment-page-2/#comment-148650 Jen Tue, 10 Jan 2012 21:09:55 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=396#comment-148650 Hi. I started dating a recovering alcoholic/addict of 3 years...20 months ago. After 10 months, we moved in together. From day 1, we have had nothing but fun, laughter, talk about AA, etc. Between the two of us we have 5 children (none of them together) and when we are together on weekends, we truly have an amazing time. I fell head over heels in love with him and have worked hard to learn more about his addictions and recovery, etc. The past 6 months, I have gone through a lot of changes in my life, extrememly stressfull (loss of job, new job, going through legal issues, financial difficulties), but I thought we were keeping lines of communication open and everything has been wonderful. Last week, he told me that he was having a very hard time balancing a relationship and his sobriety. He has had thoughts of driking again, found himself in a liquor store and he recognizes he needs to get out of the relationship. He has left me to put my house up for sale, is leaving me in the midst of my troubles, and originally said he wants to continue to date me, but last night said he doesn't know if he's even healthly enough to do that. I am left completely broken hearted, shocked, and so confused. We attended the same gym, church every Sunday and truly an amazing kind of love. We went through Christmas normal and I cannot stop trying to understand where he is coming from. I love him so much, that I don't know how I will cope when he moves out. The saying about Having loved and loss is better than not having loved at all...is questionable. He is even so great with my children and my dog. I really don't think it's possible to find someone that can compare to him. Yes, I didn't always like that he had to go to many meetings, etc., but being with him was still worth it. My advice is to watch out. I think he became addicted to me (in a way), but when things got too stressful, he backed out. I am so disappointed in his "broken promises". Watch yourself...I really have never been through anything as upsetting as this in my life. Hi. I started dating a recovering alcoholic/addict of 3 years…20 months ago. After 10 months, we moved in together. From day 1, we have had nothing but fun, laughter, talk about AA, etc. Between the two of us we have 5 children (none of them together) and when we are together on weekends, we truly have an amazing time. I fell head over heels in love with him and have worked hard to learn more about his addictions and recovery, etc. The past 6 months, I have gone through a lot of changes in my life, extrememly stressfull (loss of job, new job, going through legal issues, financial difficulties), but I thought we were keeping lines of communication open and everything has been wonderful. Last week, he told me that he was having a very hard time balancing a relationship and his sobriety. He has had thoughts of driking again, found himself in a liquor store and he recognizes he needs to get out of the relationship. He has left me to put my house up for sale, is leaving me in the midst of my troubles, and originally said he wants to continue to date me, but last night said he doesn’t know if he’s even healthly enough to do that. I am left completely broken hearted, shocked, and so confused. We attended the same gym, church every Sunday and truly an amazing kind of love. We went through Christmas normal and I cannot stop trying to understand where he is coming from. I love him so much, that I don’t know how I will cope when he moves out. The saying about Having loved and loss is better than not having loved at all…is questionable. He is even so great with my children and my dog. I really don’t think it’s possible to find someone that can compare to him. Yes, I didn’t always like that he had to go to many meetings, etc., but being with him was still worth it. My advice is to watch out. I think he became addicted to me (in a way), but when things got too stressful, he backed out. I am so disappointed in his “broken promises”. Watch yourself…I really have never been through anything as upsetting as this in my life.

]]> http://www.spiritualriver.com/addiction-recovery-and-relationships/comment-page-2/#comment-126514 susan Sun, 09 Oct 2011 04:20:25 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=396#comment-126514 To all you recovering drug attics. My best advice to you is to find you an AA or NA program. Get involved and stick to it. That is the way that I got cleaned. I have 14 mths clean. Good luck to you all. Susan To all you recovering drug attics. My best advice to you is to find you an AA or NA program. Get involved and stick to it. That is the way that I got cleaned. I have 14 mths clean. Good luck to you all.
Susan

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