Comments on: Addiction Help http://www.spiritualriver.com/addiction-help/ Non-traditional recovery from addiction Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:51:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jessica Govender http://www.spiritualriver.com/addiction-help/comment-page-1/#comment-49381 Jessica Govender Sat, 19 Dec 2009 20:24:57 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=410#comment-49381 And the other thing is that his a compulsive liar. He goes to various doctors and tells them all sorts of sob stories just to obtain a script for these drugs. I have contacted most of the pharmacies his been to as well as the doctors. I have gone as far as he pharmacutical board to send out emails to all pharmacies. I contacted his medical aid to prevent them from dispensing stage 5 medication to him. This guys takes like almost 30 sleeping pills, i mean that is an overdose. A person like me would be dead by now. He ended up with a middle ear infection because of a drug overdose. There is nothing that actually scares this man at all. I spoke to him about going to church, but unfortunately feels that god in his heart. Apart from his drugs, his a compulsive gambler and gambles all his money away, his alcohol abuse has stopped. At one point he consumed alcohol with the drugs, which according to doctors is lethal. I guess they say you only know a person is when you live with them. Somehow i have so many regrets in allowing him to live with me. I lived a peaceful life and it just turned upside down in split second. And the other thing is that his a compulsive liar. He goes to various doctors and tells them all sorts of sob stories just to obtain a script for these drugs. I have contacted most of the pharmacies his been to as well as the doctors. I have gone as far as he pharmacutical board to send out emails to all pharmacies. I contacted his medical aid to prevent them from dispensing stage 5 medication to him. This guys takes like almost 30 sleeping pills, i mean that is an overdose. A person like me would be dead by now. He ended up with a middle ear infection because of a drug overdose. There is nothing that actually scares this man at all. I spoke to him about going to church, but unfortunately feels that god in his heart. Apart from his drugs, his a compulsive gambler and gambles all his money away, his alcohol abuse has stopped. At one point he consumed alcohol with the drugs, which according to doctors is lethal. I guess they say you only know a person is when you live with them. Somehow i have so many regrets in allowing him to live with me. I lived a peaceful life and it just turned upside down in split second.

]]> By: Jessica Govender http://www.spiritualriver.com/addiction-help/comment-page-1/#comment-49380 Jessica Govender Sat, 19 Dec 2009 20:13:44 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=410#comment-49380 My live in boyfriend has been addicted to sleeping pills for many years caused by an ex wife who got him addicted to them and well basically she bailed ship because his addiction has gotten too far. We were work collegues for many years and i unfortunately was not aware of his drug abuse until late last year. I pitty him in the sense that he has lost everything in his life, but still he continues to support his drug habit. I have tried my best to be supportive and to love him unconditionally. His been in denial and won't admit that he has a problem. We have tried the intervention thing and trust me, it does not work. If i do find any of his drugs i flush them down the loo. I have never taken drugs in my life and from the way he behaves reassures me how lucky i am that i havn't tried it or ever will. He has no self discipline and self respect. He takes drugs at work and even drives under the influence of them. I contacted the metro police on many occassions to have a discussion with him, but nothing seems to scare him. In the last year, his had more than 5 accidents. If i do throw him out, he will have nowhere to go as his family has disowned him as a result of his drug abuse. His told me on many occassions that he will drive his car into a concrete slab at 200k's an hour. I don't want anything to happen to him. I want to help, but just don't know how. Talking doesn't work anymore. He refuses rehab. What else can i do to help this man? My live in boyfriend has been addicted to sleeping pills for many years caused by an ex wife who got him addicted to them and well basically she bailed ship because his addiction has gotten too far. We were work collegues for many years and i unfortunately was not aware of his drug abuse until late last year. I pitty him in the sense that he has lost everything in his life, but still he continues to support his drug habit. I have tried my best to be supportive and to love him unconditionally. His been in denial and won’t admit that he has a problem. We have tried the intervention thing and trust me, it does not work. If i do find any of his drugs i flush them down the loo. I have never taken drugs in my life and from the way he behaves reassures me how lucky i am that i havn’t tried it or ever will. He has no self discipline and self respect. He takes drugs at work and even drives under the influence of them. I contacted the metro police on many occassions to have a discussion with him, but nothing seems to scare him. In the last year, his had more than 5 accidents. If i do throw him out, he will have nowhere to go as his family has disowned him as a result of his drug abuse. His told me on many occassions that he will drive his car into a concrete slab at 200k’s an hour. I don’t want anything to happen to him. I want to help, but just don’t know how. Talking doesn’t work anymore. He refuses rehab. What else can i do to help this man?

]]> By: Patrick http://www.spiritualriver.com/addiction-help/comment-page-1/#comment-48172 Patrick Thu, 03 Dec 2009 21:28:20 +0000 http://www.spiritualriver.com/?p=410#comment-48172 @ Angel - I would definitely not give up hope, and I would not give up on trying to talk with him about it. You might be careful in how pushy you are though. Of course it depends a bit on his age. You might try the approach of saying "look, I found a rehab that can help you, if you are willing to go. I'm not gonna push you. When you are ready to change your life, I want you to come talk to me and tell me. But I'm not gonna badger you about it." I am not sure if that is the best approach. But it might get past some of the lying and open him up a bit. Good luck.... @ Angel – I would definitely not give up hope, and I would not give up on trying to talk with him about it.

You might be careful in how pushy you are though. Of course it depends a bit on his age.

You might try the approach of saying “look, I found a rehab that can help you, if you are willing to go. I’m not gonna push you. When you are ready to change your life, I want you to come talk to me and tell me. But I’m not gonna badger you about it.”

I am not sure if that is the best approach. But it might get past some of the lying and open him up a bit.

Good luck….

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